Updated: Mar 26, 2021
As human beings, we are bound to face conflict in our life. Whether it is the man-woman conflict, the rich-poor conflict or the religion-science conflict, our very nature dictates that we face some roadblocks on our path of life.
We are emotional beings and as long as we keep agreeing to the upheavals created by it, we’ll keep submitting to its volatility. Just like we want the pH level of our blood to maintain a healthy mix of acidity and alkalinity for the cells to thrive, we want our emotional state to be at peace. Only then will we be able to live the life that we deserve.
After all, negative emotions have a significant impact on our health too. Stress is one of the biggest health problems in today’s day and age. It can lead to obesity, heart disease and a host of other problems. Unfortunately, even though we long for a peaceful state, there’s great unrest all around the world. We just have to look at the number of relationships that are suffering. We just have to look at the annual defence budgets of all the countries combined.
It’s probably around a thousand billion dollars. If there was no international conflict, this money could have been used to solve global hunger or eradicate poverty. Is there a way for us to reach a frequency where we can reduce conflict? Can we attain eternal peace? Let’s find out.
Diplomacy – the key to resolving conflicts
When we open our hearts to the other person, we behave in a way that helps us create a harmonious exchange with them. It’s imperative to become aware of one’s own emotional conditioning in order to be diplomatic. When this happens, there is a balance between the yin and the yang, receiving and giving and listening and expressing. So if one person in a relationship becomes aggressive, the other person is able to absorb the energy and pass it back without any addition.
There are a lot of ways to achieve this diplomacy, but one of the most common one is tactful honesty. It carries enormous power and if the right words are said at the right time, conflict can be dispersed efficiently. People at higher frequencies are also able to feel another person’s aura and behave accordingly.
If diplomacy became a way of life and everyone adopted it successfully, we will see a marked reduction in the number of conflicts. It could even result in the reduction of international borders and other kinds of divisive policies that keep people apart.
Acceptance of what is rather than wishing for what could be
We know a lot of people who are not happy with their lives because they keep cribbing about lost opportunities, past mistakes and bad luck. Accepting our present situation and being grateful for it is one of the keys to finding peace. It’s easy to feel cranky if our flight gets cancelled. It’s difficult to feel grateful that the flight didn’t take off because bad weather was posing a risk.
Even in relationships, we feel depressed when our desired partner leaves us. All the wonderful moments we spent with them come back to haunt us. We wish they were still there and we could still spend time with them. This causes deep suffering. Instead, when we let go of our attachment and accept the reality, we move towards a peaceful state.
With time, unpleasant experiences turn into lifelong lessons. We may have found our school days tough because we had to carry heavy bags and complete a lot of assignments.
We may not realize that these lessons will help us traverse the big, hard road i.e. adulthood. Similarly, when things are not going right for us in life, we should know that we are only being redirected to something better. It is important to have this positive attitude because it helps maintain our inner peace.
Emptiness – the ultimate defence
To be truly peaceful is to be truly empty, that’s what the sages say. Chuang Tzu, a Chinese sage, had once told a very interesting story. A man was crossing the river on his boat when he accidentally collided with another boat. As a result, the man in the second boat lost his cool and began shouting at the man in the first boat. The first man absorbed his words and just stared back at him impassively. The first man had given up his idea of individuality and did not see the point of defending himself.
When we are at this level, we don’t have to make even a small effort to be diplomatic. When we are trying to be diplomatic, we are trying to maintain peace. On the other hand, when we are successful in attaining emptiness, we are peace itself. Peace is the reality which occurs when all boundaries have been broken down.
The Urruda take
At Urruda, we believe that people must act out from a place of love rather than a place of fear. Most conflicts will not take place if we just put ourselves in the other person’s shoes before reacting defensively. If we allow our emotions to control us (and not vice versa), we’ll always keep disappointing people. To achieve peace, we must practice emotional stability, because only then will we be able to be diplomatic.
We also understand that it’s not practical for everyone to achieve complete emptiness in a capitalist world. We may have mouths to feed and bills to pay. Some conflict is completely natural and we must not be too hard on ourselves if we lose our balance occasionally.
The goal should be to have a peaceful life with minimum aberrations.